My Public “Victim Impact Statement” Regarding Being ‘Loverboy’ Groomed, Trafficked, Exploited, Abused, Defamed, and Cyberstalked for Years by “Matthew Steven” of Newmarket/Toronto Ontario, Canada, and the United States, and His “Friends”

This victim impact statement was originally posted in February 2025 but was removed due to being continuously falsely reported. However, it has since been reapproved and reinstated after an appeal to Google.

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Dear Reader,

Breakups happen; they are a sad but normal part of life. Matthew Steven and I were both high-achieving people who wanted good careers, stable finances, and to be able to take care of ourselves and our families; I understood this. I became multiple award-winning myself because of that same drive.

However, in 2015, a man I once considered a friend, with whom I believed I was in a polyamorous relationship at his request and insistence, decided to label me a “cheater” months after said relationship started for the first time—an accusation that utterly broke my heart, mainly because it was entirely false and knowingly so.

It was not a misunderstanding.

He had played video games with me and my husband, spent thousands of hours with me—many of them while I was sitting next to my husband—and was aware of the actual truth. This is the only reason why I would ever violate anyone’s privacy the way I will for the site where I will finally tell this story by posting our text transcripts for the public to see what he and his “friends,” as he called them, have put me through for nearly a decade of our lives.

He has worked very hard to hide this information many times—also through proxies, and many of his alleged ‘friends’ have attempted to abuse me further, falsely claiming I’m the one who has done these things to him, all while he has spent a considerable amount of time cyberstalking me prior to each ‘attack’ on my life.

I did not even mention his name publicly until [2022], after spending years attempting to resolve this amicably, privately, and even through professionals—attempts that were not respected—thus having no choice but to go public to secure resolution for my family. He has spent over 2 years further complicating the process and directly causing spoliation of evidence via proxy with this immature, abusive behavior.

It’s been made quite clear that he and his “friends” understand and comprehend not only the value of privacy, especially online, but also that this aggressive approach to hiding statements that qualify as topics of public interest and subsequent attacks on my life and finances show intent to cause harm, along with witness and victim intimidation, which appears to be the common modus operandi for this destructive sex cult he was/is in that I refused to join.

We have a considerable amount of evidence of this, but we wanted to offer him many chances to change course first before requesting the legal courts to assist, sign privacy documents, and pay for the damages. He has chosen to further complicate this process, irritating everyone involved in his “game” to delay justice as long as possible, costing my family hundreds of thousands of dollars in the process.

We spent years doing this while patiently waiting for law enforcement to investigate the crimes against me and my family that they said they would “look into,” but they informed us years later that they decided not to file any reports or conduct any investigations while we waited, not only failing to perform legally obligated investigations but also causing spoliation of evidence that we were blocked by laws from obtaining ourselves.

To the few who have stuck by him and attacked me and my family, as well as our financial security, weaponizing the internet on his behalf, you have definitely not been given the full scope of what you are protecting, and you are urged to cease and desist getting involved.

He perpetuated these lies about me, even after numerous corrections, to others he called “friends” until at least 2019—randomly bringing it up as a weapon after he spent considerable time trapping me into a loveless dynamic with loverboy grooming using false accusations of cheating, but using these false accusations as sextortion, both privately and publicly, causing over $1 million in damages via stochastic terrorism via proxy.

Though the “e-girlfriend” name makes it sound like I was his actual girlfriend, I was not and never was.

He, together with his “friends” he refuses to name or turn in himself, trafficked me across international borders, from the United States to Canada, in late 2016, using offline and online illegal sextortion (also called sexploitation) to keep me ‘performing’ for his sexual needs against my will while I was forced to pretend everything was okay when it very much was not, and law enforcement looked the other way.

Keeping him happy became a fear-based compulsion because of the horrific, long-term abuse they put me through, and per professionals, I did what was not only “conditioned” into me through non-consensual behavioral ‘training’ techniques, but what was also taught by him by “coaches” in an industry already exposed for their illegal practices toward tens of thousands, if not millions, of other women.

I was tired; my soul ached for law enforcement to hurry up with the investigation I did not know until 2021 that they were not performing, and I was becoming badly ill due to the stress; I now have permanent brain damage from these abuses.

We believe the initial false accusations—backed by considerable evidence—were because he learned this technique from men within the Manosphere, like Andrew Tate’s behavioral modification “lessons,” and other pickup artist materials that I never once consented to.

We later found out from professionals that these “lessons” are just relabeled forms of various abuses, aimed at putting a woman in a constant defensive position as a method of coercive control, abuse, and gaslighting, yes, even if the accusations were a complete fabrication, and creating what is called “false confessions” by applying certain pressure points mentally to get the victim to do what you want.

There was zero net benefit for me, and I was never paid; I was never and am not still any form of sex worker. This was abuse, trafficking, and exploitation via every legal definition.

From what we have seen, these methods were taught in context; most “students” did know this was how he could gain control over his victim and modify the victim's behavior without her knowledge. Likewise, I do not believe that in my case with him this was a misunderstanding.

These “coaches” taught them to target women who are neurodivergent and abuse victims for more success, which, by every legal standard, constitutes loverboy grooming for sexual exploitation and trafficking—something he has done with assistance from his “friends.”

Continuously hiding my statements made for public interest and safety, and attacking my life, finances, reputation, and future with edited and heavily cherry-picked parts of our story does not and will never change the truth of the situation. To protect myself and my family from defamation and this sexploitation, I must insist, for however long it takes, on getting this situation settled.

If this was “just a breakup” and the extent of the lies traveled, I would have gotten over it and moved on, but it wasn’t.

Within the next year after the first breakup in 2015, this lie would travel around the world and back again, both online and off, seen by hundreds of thousands of faceless, radicalized people, many of them hunting me and my family down using public records that cannot be hidden or annotated with a banner stating, “These rumors are not true—I am his victim of trafficking and exploitation.”

This was an abuse of numerous public record systems and accessing those public records for locating victims for nefarious purposes that they cannot reasonably outrun, which adds to the list of crimes and violates the terms of service of the company's infrastructure that were used for these purposes.

His refusal to acknowledge that he never established a genuine relationship, coupled with his reliance on non-consensual coercive control behavioral modification techniques—such as neuro-linguistic programming, operant conditioning, influenced trauma bonding, and intermittent reinforcement—ensured that I was trapped in a mental prison with no clear escape, obviously against my will based on hundreds of aggressive texts informing him of the harm they were causing, which they not only ignored but gained entertainment from, using illegal methods to ruin everything in my life if I did not comply.

I was never his girlfriend at his urging, yet after he broke up with me, his “friends,” whom I did not give my private information to, got to work destroying my life so thoroughly that I eventually stopped collecting evidence during the first rounds of their attacks because it was too much to handle in the absence of law enforcement and while trying to function as a wife and mother, as well as maintaining my own mental health.

I have grown tired of still receiving hate mail from these faceless sex cult members on his behalf from people who only know 1% of the story and choose to continue to weaponize it.

He has made zero noticeable effort to rectify this while hiding in the shadows, watching me and my family suffer for his entertainment. The cherry-picked narrative he has disseminated lacks context and truth, stripping away 99% of the actual events that framed my experiences and creating a new narrative entirely divorced from reality.

This manipulation of facts has further complicated the challenges I face in pursuing justice.

My story and the details of this abusive relationship, along with the evidence of the trafficking and exploitation I’ve endured, will be documented in an eBook titled “The Lies My ‘Loverboy’ Told Me.” This book aims to shed light on these issues, present evidence of our experiences, and provide support to others who might find themselves in similar circumstances.

If you have had similar experiences with Matthew Steven (due to the common name, I specify that he is originally from the Newmarket/Penetanguishene/Toronto, Ontario, Canada area [and has white/blonde hair and blue eyes]), my heart goes out to you.

You’re welcome to share your stories with me on the site’s contact form, where my story, alongside the stories of other victims of this destructive sex cult, will be shared. You can also read other victim stories to learn how to pursue your own path toward justice.

The emotional and psychological impact of this situation has been devastating, yet I continue to speak out—not only for my own healing but also to help prevent others from falling into similar traps, especially those involving him specifically. It is crucial to raise awareness about such abusive tactics and the profound ways in which they can affect one’s life.*

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*All alleged until proven guilty, even though I did not get this same respect.